10 sex tips to guarantee bliss in bed

Bliss-Tip No. 2: Have Fun with Toys

There's a huge selection of vibrators and sex toys available for adding extra pleasure to your sex life. Use these on your own to get familiar with them - also great for learning more about your own body.

But don't be selfish, you can then share them with him for exciting sex-play and incorporate them into your favourite sex positions.

Take turns slowly and sensitively running them up and down your bodies. Slip on some lubricant so they glide easily over your skin. Don't forget to continue using them during sex for added stimulation.

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Bliss-Tip No. 3: Let Your Fingers Do the Talking

You might feel a bit shy to ask for what you want but definitely guide his hands around your body with your own.

This way you show him where you want them and can encourage him to touch you however gently or firmly you prefer. Gently run your fingertips around your breasts as you two enjoy foreplay so he catches sight of the way you like to be touched.

Hopefully your confidence will be boosted so feel free to whisper what feels good - he'll appreciate it.

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Bliss-Tip No. 4: Sex-ercise Your Way to a Better Climax

Strong pelvic floor muscles guarantees a great orgasm plus improves all-round fitness. Do pelvic floor exercises when already in your exercise gear or discreetly at anytime – even at your desk at work.

Relax your body except for your pelvic floor muscles. Imagine pulling them inwards and upwards towards your tummy button. Squeeze them for three seconds repeating 10 times. Increase this to 20 repetitions, twice daily. Use this new-found strength to squeeze him during penetrative sex.

Pulsating these muscles will feel fantastic to you both!

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Bliss-Tip No. 5: Have Fun with Alfresco Sex

On a warm evening or a sunny day plan some sexiness in the sunshine. Put together a romantic picnic with lots of finger-foods to hand-feed each other.

Stay close to home and picnic somewhere like your local park or get adventurous and find a hidden beauty spot.

Even if you don't have the privacy for some full-blown sex-play, the sun and warmth is a natural libido booster and you can take your passion back home.

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Bliss-Tip No. 6: Dress for Sex-cess

It's always worth investing in a sexy little number. Men are incredibly visual creatures (we are too) easily turned on by something a bit sexier than you normally wear.

For body confidence to wear something revealing apply some fake tan. Take time trying on different styles until you find something you feel sexually confident in.

And remember when you're wearing something hot men never notice the lumps and bumps that we fear they'll notice.

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Bliss-Tip No. 7: Sensual Indulgence

Sometimes the steamiest sex begins with little sensual pleasures. Shower together and ask him to gently wash your hair.

He could also lather-up your body as the warm water cascades over you. Or hand-feed each other some yummy dessert, e.g., chocolate mousse, ice cream or cheesecake. Gently touch his lips as you spoon the creamy dessert into his mouth.

Ask him to paint your fingernails - it's like foreplay as he holds each of your fingers in turn while varnishing them. Transform practically any activity you do together into something a bit sensual.

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Bliss-Tip No. 8: StockYour Pleasure Chest

Stock a bedside pleasure chest so you're ready when the mood strikes. Either use a special chest (lockable if you have children)or dedicate a bedside drawer to these items.

Now you won't end up madly searching for the things that liven up sex.

Your pleasure chest can include your favourite lubricant, condoms,sex toys, erotica, a blind fold for a kinky sex game, sexy stockings and silky knickers, tissues, massage oils, etc.

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Bliss-Tip No. 9: Fun With Fantasies

Many couples find they enjoy some role-play chat once they've opened up about their secret fantasies. For fantasy success start slowly - if you fantasise about trying bondage don't tell your partner you're dying to whip them.

Begin by saying it'd be fun to tie their wrists with a silky cord from your dressing gown and tease them until they can’t take it anymore.  Also put your partner in the middle of your fantasy - saying you wished they were Johnny Depp is mean.

Take turns creating a fantasy scenario. One of you starts with the first line of the fantasy then the other says what happens next. As you build the fantasy scenario desire builds.

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Bliss-Tip No. 10: Keep Ringing the Changes

Lavish praise on your partner - it helps build confidence with each other to suggest new things. Occasionally try a new position like 'girls on top' where you take the lead.

It's the perfect position for helping you reach climax as you control the pace and pressure. Also vary where you have sex occasionally, e.g., moving from the bedroom to the sitting room helps. And if you always have lazy ‘Sunday morning sex’ experiment - have some midweek passion on a Wednesday night.

If you only have energy at weekends vary the time you have sex from morning, to night, to afternoon delight.

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For more advice, Dr Pam's latest book - Steamy Sex: The Sex Doctor's Guide to Keeping it Hot - is available now.