12 types of sex every woman should try
Most people have bucket lists for places to visit and things to try. But why not have a red-hot bucket list for your sex life? With bedroom boredom a common complaint, these ideas are sure to keep your between-sheet romps fun and fresh.
Here are the 12 types of sex every woman should try at least once in her life.
1. Quiet Sex
Many of us like to making noise during sex, especially at the ‘Big O’ moment. But there are times when quiet sex is a must, like when you're visiting your parents’ home.
Why it's fun: It takes a lot of effort to stay quiet, and that added concentration heightens awareness of all your senses. You may be listening out for the creak of your mother's footsteps outside your door, but you're also more alert to the pleasurable sensations.
Top time to try it: Once you and your partner are comfortable with each other. If he's only just met your parents, it may be too stressful. And stressful circumstances are where he might lose his erection. Not fun.
2. Quickie Sex
Far too many people frown on quickies, but they're actually a fantastic way to squeeze in a little extra enjoyment. Get the hang of a quickie and you'll learn more about your sexual responses, improving the rest of your sex life.
Why it's fun: You're more likely to be in the moment during the intensity of a quickie. This gives you the confidence to say exactly what will work in a short space of time. The urgency also increases passion levels.
Top time to try it: When you find yourself short on time -- like when you've become new parents and you're finally thinking about sex again.
3. Al Fresco Sex
There's something about having sex outdoors that’s incredibly freeing. It's like a breath of fresh air in your sex life -- literally.
Why it's fun: Getting busy in nature causes you to lose to your inhibitions quickly, and it's usually quite spontaneous. Translation? It's anything but boring!
Top time to try it: If you have a private garden, take advantage on the next warm night. (Just make sure you don't have any nosy neighbours peeking through the fence.) Or on your next holiday, grab a few blankets and sneak off to a secluded part of the beach.
4. Afternoon Delight Sex
They wrote a whole song about this and yet many people never try it! Why not sneak upstairs on a weekend afternoon or take an afternoon off work for a sexy liaison?
Why it's fun: It’s sexy to romp during the day because it feels quite decadent. Plus, busy people are often too tired at night and too rushed in the morning.
Top time to try it: When you're stressed or going through a lull in your sex life. In the afternoon, it feels like special sexy-time when you two can shut out the world.
5. New Home Sex
Forget about being carried over the threshold: You have to christen your new bedroom! (And sitting room, kitchen and bathroom for that matter.)
Why it's fun: Studies show that being in new surroundings improves sex because it makes the whole experience seem new. We may be creatures of habit, but the last thing you want is for your bedroom antics to become a habit.
Top time to try it: Obviously when you move home -- but also when you're staying at a hotel or in a friend's guest bedroom. Enjoy how the new surroundings give you new sexual confidence.
6. '50 Shades' Sex
There comes a time when everyone should try a little bondage-lite. (If you haven't read 50 Shades of Grey yet, get started now -- or just wait for the movie to come out.)
Why it's fun: It can be fantastic to play with submissive and dominant roles. You can stop being the way you normally are and do your partner's bidding. There's nothing like discovering you're quite good at spanking or love to be tied up.
Top time to try it: When you're both feeling confident because it takes major self-esteem to carry off 50 Shades-style sex. Though there's nothing wrong with collapsing in a pile of giggles if it fails to go to plan.
7. Tight Squeeze Sex
Having sex in a confined space, like a car or a lift, proves you've still got it! You need flexibility and stamina for this sexual achievement because you're forced to do it in an unusual or standing position.
Why it's fun: It's a lark, especially if you've hit your 30s or 40s and it re-captures some of your youthful spirit. It can kickstart a new phase in your sex life.
Top time to try it: Definitely try tight-squeeze sex when you're feeling physically fit and energised because it can be demanding.
8. Role-play Sex
At some point in your life, you must unleash your inner nurse. Or damsel in distress. Or company boss who wants her evil way with her handsome PA...
Why it's fun: You can make many discoveries about what you find sexy when you role-play. You and your partner can take turns choosing the role-play theme -- the possibilities are endless!
Top time to try it: Bust this trick out when things are getting a bit stale. If it's your first attempt, start with a simple 'strangers in the night' scenario: Meet your man at a bar you've never been to, pretending you're strangers who chat each other up... and more!
9. Fear of Getting Caught Sex
You must push the boundaries at least once in your life and you try something risky -- like sex in the office after hours. (Or even in-hours somewhere discreet, if you're extra bold!)
Why it's fun: It's exhilarating to have your own naughty secret. And the suspense over whether or not you get caught can give you a powerful sexual response.
Top time to try it: When you two need to feel you're special to each other again, like it's you two against the world. Have a glass of wine first if you need some liquid courage -- but just don't go overboard with your antics. It's not worth it to get fired (or arrested!) over one steamy session.
10. Casual Sex
Full disclosure: This one may not be for everyone. But if you're confident in your sexuality and unattached, a one night stand or sex-based fling can be exhilarating -- and it can make for fun memories once you do settle into a serious relationship.
Why it's fun: When there are no strings attached, many women find they can ask for exactly what they want in bed. There's no room for shyness if it's only one or two nights.
Top time to try it: When you meet a sexy man who, for whatever reason, you'd never pursue a relationship with. Just make sure you're safe -- and that you both know it's only a casual fling.
11. Rude with Food Sex
You discover inner sensuality when you let go and get dirty with food. It's messy, sexy and a bit raunchy.
Why it's fun: It feels heavenly when your partner asks you to lie back so he can spoon some of his dessert between your cleavage to slowly lick off. It's liberating when you take a tray of food to bed along with a 'we don't care about messing up the sheets' attitude.
Top time to try it: Tick this one off when you're sharing Sunday morning brunch in bed. Pass the whipped cream!
12. Celebration Sex
Whether you got that huge promotion or just found your lost earring, when you're feeling good, it's the perfect time for a romp. The adrenaline buzzing through your body will give you more powerful orgasms.
Why it's fun: Because you feel on top of the world, you're more likely to take control of the sex-play and try something new.
Top time to try it: Not when you've just had a ton of celebratory drinks with your colleagues! Instead, wait for the weekend when you're still high on success but a bit more sober.
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