12 ways to boost your sex drive

Get into the shower with him wearing a white T-shirt

What guy can pass up a white, wet T-shirt even if it's in the shower? Getting naked is okay too but a T-shirt or tank top is a classic.

It's a major turn-on for him to think about, just remember to take off that bra underneath. Plus you'll both have the added enjoyment of peeling it off to lather each other up with soap.

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Bring your mother's pearls to bed

Squeeze some lube on the pearls, wrap around his penis and roll in an and up-and-down fashion.

If he enjoys that you can take it one step further and order a sex toy online.

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Send him a picture of your mouth with your mobile

Then text him what you're going to do with it when you both get home. Consider it distance foreplay.

You'll both be ready to go when you walk in the door. Your mouth doesn't have to be the only thing you photograph either - any number of body parts will do, depending on his preference.

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Flash him when he's heading out the door

A boob for breakfast? Sounds like the perfect side dish for the on-the-go morning meal.

A dowdy pyjama top will forever hold new meaning if you lift it quickly when he turns to say goodbye - if there's a danger that the neighbour might see, all the better.

It will take him by surprise and will keep hin nourished - or hungry - all day. Not a breast man? Try mooning him or squeezing his bum as he walks out the door.

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Make a move on bim whan he's heading out the door

Not Tahiti - more like the garage. Coose some where he's least expacting it, and if you may be so bold, try a role play.

If he's cleaning out the garden shed maybe you're in need of some deflowering. If he's in the office at the computer, you're his new assistant. Hosing down the car for a wash? Where's that white T-shirt?

If you're not in the mood to fantisise, try sexy board games, an erotic deck of cards or dice to do the work for you.

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Play with his hair

Remember one of the first things a boy did to flirt was to play with your hair? You don't have to be X-rated or in the bedroom in order to be flirtatious and physical with eachother.

And you can do it anytime, anywhere - sitting in front of the TV or in the line at the coffee shop.

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Wear a neckace made of sweets to bed

And let him nibble on it and you. Wear it around your neck, ankles, wrist and thigh and let his sweet tooth do the rest.

If he bites off a chunk he can pass it to your mouth and share the wealth. And when he's finished (if you get that far) he'll have fun licking the stickiness of your skin.

Bring the rest of your senses to life with more sweet treats, like tasty lubricants and yummy massage oil - which believe it or not come in sugar free and organic varieties.

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Use an exercise ball

Remember that big rubber ball you brought for exercise? Don't let it get dusty and deflated, pump it up and use it during sex, to lean over or sit on next to the bed.

It's amazing what a little bounce and roll can do for tired limbs and awkward angles.

If you're more ambitious you can buy pillows, chairs and stools designed especially for comfort and getting into more interesting postions.

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Walk around the house naked

Just do it casually, and often. If watching you do the dishes or flick through a magazine has never caught his eye before, it might be different if you're doing it in your birthday suit.

Of course this works best when the kids are out or at a friends.

Even if you're not completely bare, crossing the room without any underwear on or topless can instantly take his mind of paying the bills and onto paying attention to you.

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Watch 9 1/2 Weeks

It will start off as a blast form the past and turn into a turn-on. Mickey Rourke and Kim Basinger's chemistry is undeniable, and there is no shortage of steaminess.

Try these other films with a kink factor: The Other Boelyn Girl, Atonement, The Notebook, The Thomas Crown Affair, Out of Sight, Betty Blue, The Big Easy, Coming Home and The Unbearable Lightness of Being.

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Buy him some underwear

Lingerie works on guys too. Not the usual boxers but something different. Something silky or satiny or just tighter than ususal, as long as it's different to what he's used to wearing.

Ask him to model them for you and tell him how sexy he looks (while mentioning that you can't wait to take them off).

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