20 ways to perk up your sex life

By Susan Quilliam

Is your sex life one big anti-climax? Sue Quilliam's sensual tips will help you put it back on the pleasure track.

Everyone knows that sex can go off the boil. Lack of desire is by far the most commonly reported sexual problem nowadays for both men and women.In fact the survey done for my book suggested that 68.5% of women want more sex than they are currently getting. So if you're not getting enough, you're not alone.

But what can you do about it? This guide should help you to improve your floundering sex lives.

5 ways to put sensuality back into sex
Begin by recreating the sensual side of your sex life. The key to fulfilment isn't just in orgasm but in sensuality too.

So for at least a week, ban penetration. This will take the emphasis off intercourse and on to the sort of cuddling and learning you did when you were first going out.

Set aside an hour every day in a sensuous environment - light candles and play some soft music.

Touch and stroke your partner's body - not genitals yet - with fingers and mouth. Get him to tell you what feels especially fantastic. That way he's teaching you what really works for him. Then swap.

After two or three sessions of this, move on to the genital areas. Again, tell your partner what works, and again remember to swap.

Wait until the end of the week to have intercourse. Then you can use all that you've learned and savour the wonderfully intimate sex that you'll have discovered.