5 ego boosts every man needs
We can't explain all male behaviour, but here are five sex secrets that may help you understand your man even better
Men can be tricky beasts to understand. To help you navigate your romantic relationships, pyschologist George Weinberg, author of Why Men Won't Commit: Getting What You Both Want Without Playing Games offers fascinating insight into male behaviour.
1. He's afraid he'll let you down
Men feel tremendous pressure to perform sexually. "In the past, men weren't evaluating their sexual performance because women weren't supposed to judge them," says Weinberg. But times have changed. Sexually satisfied role models, such as Madonna and the Sex and the City girls exude sexual confidence and encourage women to be open about their sexual desires and complaints. Women have more experience in the bedroom than ever before. The pressure for men to perform has increased and he can't help feeling that he has to please you. Even though you might forgive him for a few poor performances, he finds it difficult to forgive himself.
Warning: If your man frequently has problems with getting aroused or maintaining his erection, he may protect his ego by blaming you.
What you can do: Relax and try to enjoy sex. This will help to alleviate some of the pressure. In other words, don't take it personally and don't tease or insult him. And never point and laugh.
2. He needs to know he's doing it right
Sex is a source of power and is proof of a man's masculinity. "To a man, having sex means that he can move a woman, that he's an athlete, a provider and a lover," says Weinberg. Basically, your guy wants to be a superhero and he certainly wants you to see him in that light. When he satisfies you sexually, he feels like Superman. If you are enjoying yourself, let him know you're happy.
Warning: No encouragement means no joy.
What you can do: It's simple. Let him know what feels good or let out a moan or heavy breath when you feel like it. A good rule of thumb: don't fake it, but don't fight it.