6 dating situations that scare men

Some men might talk a big game, but they get worried and scared in certain dating situations like everyone else . Here, eHarmony’s Senior Director of Research and Development at eHarmony Labs Dr Gian Gonzaga, explains what goes through their heads when they’re worried about making a move on you – and how they can combat these fears.

The first approach

Fear of rejection stops a lot of men from even trying to approach women, but this fear can be unlearned. Many forget that most women will be flattered to be chatted up and will usually politely decline a man’s advances if they’re approached in a pleasant enough way but aren’t interested. Visualising success will help, or work on the ‘inner game’.

The man should focus on getting to know the woman and genuinely taking interest in her. If his goal is to learn about the woman, he will be less worried about being rejected, and more likely to be successful. It also helps to copy the behaviour of other confident men.
The first call

A lot of people shy away from the old-fashioned speaking part of mobile communication, favouring the text instead. But whoever you are, it’s important to speak first and get an idea of someone’s voice and personality. He should never make a call when he’s tired, and always try to listen as much he talks.
The first date

Pretty much everyone gets nervous on a first date. One tip for him is to ask a female friend what to wear and where to go. A first date is about getting to know if the other person is right for you, so he should focus on figuring out if they are someone who he shares important values, interests, and characteristics with. Often men spend too much time bragging about themselves, rather than trying to learn about the women they are on a date with.

The more time he spends asking her questions, and taking genuine interest in what she says, the better the date will go.
The first argument

Arguments are a natural part of relationships, but the first one can be overwhelming. Anger is not always a bad thing; engaging in an argument can be a sign that the other person cares. But if he lets his own (or his partner’s) anger get out of control it can be dangerous and destructive. He shouldn’t be afraid to defend his position, while also listening to his partner’s point of view.
Meeting the parents

Meeting the family can be a difficult process, especially when a woman is close to her parents or siblings or their family is protective. Guys can find this particular step very intimidating. But if he is respectful, thoughtful, and shows he cares for their daughter (or sister) he will be on the right track.
Ending the relationship

Not all relationships are going to work out, and ending one can be the most difficult thing. Although it is hard, the best thing either party can do is be honest and clear. He doesn’t need to be brutal and mean, but instead let her know that he doesn’t think things are going to work out, and prepare for some hard feelings (sadness, anger, fear). Breaking up is never easy to do, but being respectful and honest will make things easier
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