Confidence checklist

How is confidence - real confidence - demonstrated? Here's the iVillage 10-point checklist to keep you on track:

People who believe in themselves take charge of their actions


They act assertively, speak calmly and listen properly


They're flexible towards people, circumstances and all things new


They're able to give genuine praise and to accept constructive criticism


They evaluate themselves realistically


They appreciate their achievements


They learn from their mistakes


They aren't run by 'shoulds', 'musts' and 'ought tos'


When an opportunity comes up they say 'Why not?' rather than 'Why?'


They feel they can influence situations and outcomes