Feel the bikini fear and do it anyway

Practice being relaxed in your own skin by banning negativity, only allowing yourself to think and say good things about the way your body looks. If you normally hide away in a corner in the changing rooms at the gym, be a bit bolder and challenge yourself to be less self-conscious about being naked in front of others. Have more massages and do aerobics or yoga classes that will help you to focus your attention on how good your body feels.

For an extra boost, try the Loving Your Body guided meditation in Debbie Ford's The Best Year Of Your Life Kit or take advantage of the positive subliminal messages in the I Love My Body CD by www.innertalk.co.uk.

Forget who's watching
Our biggest bikini fear comes from the idea that everyone will be watching us and judging us on how we look. The good news is that this is a complete myth, mostly because we're all so neurotic about how we look that we're too busy to focus on anyone else. Also, people are far less shallow than we give them credit for. It's actually our own self-attacking thoughts we're projecting onto others that lead us to believe we're being judged and found wanting.

If it's male attention you're worried about, confidence comes up as the sexiest characteristic in any male survey of female attraction every time. When did you last hear a man say he fell in love with his partner because she wore a high-fashion bikini and weighed less than his weekly shopping?

Fake it till you make it
No-one feels ultra-confident every day, so sometimes you're just going to have to fake it. The key to helping you overcome those self-esteem blips is learning to play to your strengths. If your muffin top is still in full bloom when summer rolls around or you just don't have the confidence to prance down the beach in a skimpy two-piece feeling loud and proud, make sure to wrap yourself in a gorgeous sarong that makes you feel fabulous.

When you feel good, you look good. Distract attention from the areas you're self-conscious about by adding eye-catching accessories, like jewellery or a flower in your hair to accentuate the parts of your body that you love.

Remember, it's not about how little you wear, it's about how well you wear it. As the professional beach volleyball champion Gabrielle Reece, who has to wear a bikini to compete, puts it, 'I learned from the Brazilian girls, who wear tiny bikinis and don't even think about it, that confidence makes a bikini sexy.'

The difference between the bikini blues and costume confidence is all in your mind. Love your body exactly as it is and have a carefree, bikini fabulous summer.

Alison Porter, aka Coach Fabulous, is a life coach specialising in authentic style and self-confidence. Her coaching websites www.iamfabulous.co.uk and www.coachfabulous.blogspot.com see her play the part of agony aunt to the general public, but if you want her undivided attention you can also make an appointment by emailing coachfabulous@iamfabulous.co.uk