Why can't you stick to a diet?

1. Take a closer look

Stand in front of the mirror and determine which body parts you find most attractive. Instead of singling out the things you don't like, zero in on sexy feet, shapely arms or a great face. Every time you feel those negative images creeping in, replace them with mental pictures of your preferred parts.

2. Stop being so shallow

If someone else judged you on looks alone, you?d probably be disgusted by their shallow attitude. So why do it to yourself? Your self-perception should be about who you are, not what you look like. Think about all of your great attributes, including your personality, your intelligence and your job or people skills, and let those things, not the way you look, drive your self-esteem.

3. Pamper yourself

Treat yourself (and maybe a daughter or friend) to a nice massage, a pedicure or a facial. Such relaxation can be good for relieving stress and boosting your mood, which will help prevent stress-eating and increase your chances of sticking to your plan.

4. Take good care of your health

Show you care about your future health by doing the one thing that can protect you against a host of diseases: regular aerobic exercise. Aim for at least 30 minutes, five to six times per week. This can mean a spinning class, running, dancing or just walking at a brisk pace.

5. Flatter yourself

Instead of your standard haircut, ask the stylist to give you a cut that will be flattering to the shape of your face. Then purchase some clothes you feel truly comfortable and confident in, even if you're not at your goal weight. Make sure to admire how fabulous you look in the mirror before you leave the house for a daily boost of self-esteem.

6. Show your love with food

One way many people, especially women, show love is by preparing home-cooked meals. You can do the same for yourself (and your family). Instead of your age-old recipes, test out new, healthier options. Use your meal plan as a guide and you'll see how eating well can make you feel like a new person.

7. Protect yourself from injury

You wouldn't let a loved one workout in a way that could cause injury, so you shouldn't let yourself do it either. Make sure you have appropriate shoes for the type of exercise you're performing. Visit a sporting goods store and have a sales rep help you pick out the right shoes.

8. Cut yourself some slack

It's easy to get mad at yourself when you give in to a craving or eat too much at a meal. But negative self-talk can only serve to worsen your self-esteem. Don't beat yourself up when you eat too much at dinner or have a biscuit that isn't on your plan. Just promise to do better next time and focus on sticking to your plan at the next meal.

9. Be your own biggest supporter

Start a diary. On the first page, write down your reasons for wanting to lose weight (all the things that motivated you to sign up for a plan). Then jot down words of encouragement on the following pages. Each time you feel a dip in your motivation, read those words of encouragement.

Then write down your present thoughts and what's causing you difficulty. Recording your thoughts and reading them back can be just as therapeutic as talking to a friend.

10. Celebrate your accomplishments

Depending on how much weight you have to lose, it can be a long journey to your ultimate goal. So be sure to stop along the way (when you reach small milestones, like losing the first five pounds or sticking to your plan for five days in a row) and pat yourself on the back.

Of course, refrain from using food as a reward. Instead, treat yourself to a film, a new pair of shoes or another treat.