Dr Pam's love clinic - Dr. Pam Spurr

Dr Pam's love clinic

Each week, award-winning radio presenter, agony aunt, sex and relationship advisor, and life coach Dr Pam Spurr will be advising iVillagers on real-life love and sex issues. Check back every week to read her latest words of wisdom

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I think the man I've fallen for is a player

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Recent blog posts

May 08

I'm making excuses to avoid sex with my boyfriend

Question: Dear Dr. Pam, I’ve been with my boyfriend for three years and we have a good, strong relationship. He’s a great guy and I really love him. The problem is - for quite a few months now I haven’t really felt turned on by him. I find myself making excuses to avoid sex and...

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May 01

My husband wants a vasectomy and I'm fuming

Question: Dear Dr Pam, I’m absolutely fuming with my husband and need some advice! We’ve got two young boys who I adore, but he has always been pretty vocal about the fact that he didn’t want kids. He does love them but he doesn’t want any more – it’s caused a...

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Apr 25

My man's feminine side is starting to make me uncomfortable

Question: Dear Dr. Pam, I’ve been with my boyfriend for just over a year, I’m 29 years old and we are quite happy together. But for a while there’s been something troubling me and I don’t know what to do about it. It started when he’d make little comments about wearing...

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Apr 17

Is he trying to give me a hint by pulling away?

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Question: Dear Dr. Pam, A couple of months ago I met a guy through friends and we began texting - the texts had been pretty regular and fun. A couple of weekends ago he came over to my place and we slept together. He didn’t text me until three days later and the texts were less regular after...

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Apr 10

Should I give in to my flirty colleague?

Question: Dear Dr. Pam, A couple of years ago I was involved in an office romance that ended badly... I mean really badly. I don't want to be recognised but he lost his job when it ended because it was so messy and that's all I'll say. So, being a sensible girl, I swore I'd never to...

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Apr 03

We had alfresco sex and now I want more

Question: Dear Dr. Pam, I've been with my husband for seven years and things are really pretty good. We get on well and he's a great dad to our little girl. I've never really thought about our sex life because things tick over. But what with the good weather and all we had sex outdoors...

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Mar 29

I keep having sexy dreams about a colleague!

Question: Dear Dr. Pam, Thank goodness this is anonymous because I'm freaked out by a recurring dream I've been having for the last couple of months. I work in a large company across several departments and report to a few different managers. One of them I get along really well with and...

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Mar 21

I feel trapped by other people's relationships

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Question: Dear Dr. Pam, I’m 28 and single. I’ve been single for almost a year and I’m ok with it. The problem is, most of my good friends are in relationships and so when I go out it’s usually with a bunch of couples. I love all my friends dearly and it’s great to...

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Mar 13

I like being 'friends with benefits' but I think he wants more

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Question: Hi Pam, I know this guy - we’ve been good friends for a couple of years - we’ve got a similar sense of humour and have really decent chats. It’s always been plutonic, with the odd flirt here and there, as we’ve never been single at the same time - until a few...

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Mar 06

I can't stop Facebook-stalking my ex!

Question: Dear Dr. Pam, I broke up with my boyfriend about four months back and even though I don’t necessarily want to get back with him I can’t seem to get him out of my head! We were together for almost a year and broke up after loads of silly arguments - it just wasn’t working...

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