Dr Pam's love clinic - Dr. Pam Spurr

Dr Pam's love clinic

Each week, award-winning radio presenter, agony aunt, sex and relationship advisor, and life coach Dr Pam Spurr will be advising iVillagers on real-life love and sex issues. Check back every week to read her latest words of wisdom

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I want more than just sex with my casual man

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Jan 24

Since my mum died I've lost interest in my husband

Question: Dear Dr Pam, My mum died tragically and completely unexpectedly four months ago. I've been married for five years to a lovely man. But since losing my mum I have found it very hard to get intimate with him. I can't put my finger on it I just don't feel like it. He is very...

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Jan 18

He's too pushy about oral sex

Dear Dr. Pam, I’ve been with my boyfriend for five months and things are going well - he’s a really great guy and we get along fantastically. Our sex life is good apart from one thing: he gets too pushy when he wants a blow job. I don’t mind giving him head but sometimes he does...

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Jan 10

He lets his ex call the shots

Question: Dear Dr. Pam, I’ve been with my boyfriend for four years. My problem is that he has two children, aged five and eight, from a previous relationship. He is still in very close contact with their mother and spends time with them all as a family three evenings a week and one full day...

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Jan 04

My ex doesn't know I'm his new cyber lover

Question: Dear Dr Pam, Last year, after having been divorced for some time, I met a man (online) who fell madly in love with me and swept me off my feet - he even gave me his gran’s wedding ring, to prove his commitment. I don’t think I really appreciated him enough or let him know how...

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Dec 31

How can I feel sexy again after my divorce?

Question: Hi Pam, I recently separated from my husband of 11 years we’re in the process of divorcing. It’s been a hard time but with the new year coming up I’m trying to be positive and look forward. I’m keen to meet new people and get some romance back in my life but I don...

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Dec 15

My husband hit me but I'm not ready to leave

Question: Dear Dr Pam, I have a huge dilemma and now that the year is almost over I feel even more pressured to solve it and start fresh! Two years ago I married my boyfriend after dating him for a year. Things with him have never been too rosy and easy but despite everything we were crazy in love...

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Dec 06

Now that I'm pregnant I'm losing my sex drive

Dear Dr Pam, My partner and I have been trying for a baby for a really long time. Eventually we succeeded and I am now four months pregnant. Of course I am extremely happy and excited but my pregnancy is starting to affect our sex life badly. I feel less attractive by the day and although I do have...

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Nov 29

I’m so shy I put men off

Dear Pam, I have a problem that keeps getting in the way of me finding a boyfriend...or even going on a second date! I am 27 and have never been in a serious relationship. This might be because I am a very shy person and I can’t trust anybody but my family and really close friends. In the...

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Nov 22

I don't want to bore him when it comes to sex

Dear Dr. Pam, I just started seeing this guy who I’ve fancied for a really long time. He is very attractive and I know that a lot of women have crushes on him. He is the type of guy who gets a lot of attention wherever he goes. So naturally he’s had plenty of experience and is very good...

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Nov 16

How do I spice things up with aphrodisiacs?

Dear Dr. Pam, My boyfriend and I have been together for six months and although things between us are not always going smoothly, we try to make it work. But when it comes to our sex life, there is a lot to be desired! We don’t have sex often (usually a couple of times monthly) because his sex...

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