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Obesity and sex
In the bedroom, the problem is particularly exaggerated. The fatter a person gets, the less they are interested in sex, and the less sex they get the more their bodies crave satisfaction from food. The physical limitations of excess weight can make sexual activity too strenuous, and the constant feelings of lethargy, caused by obesity, tend to diminish a person's sex drive too.
It is also common for partners of overweight individuals to no longer find them sexually attractive because of weight gain. These emotions are usually denied or suppressed to prevent hurt and upset. In reality however, these emotions are blocking communication, and although difficult to confront, are only exacerbating the problem further.
Eventually Sarah and Jonathon split up and she met someone else. She admits that dating Jonathon was a mistake for both of them. 'We were both vulnerable because of the emotional implications of our weight,' she explains. 'I know he is happier now, and we have both found the support we needed to lose weight from other people.'
Sarah is now much happier with her size, 'I am still large but no longer obese' she says. 'The man I am with now likes me with curves, and finds me sexy, but as an active, bubbly big person, not a lazy overweight sloth.'
Many men find big women attractive and curves and love handles are often considered to be the ultimate in sexuality and sensuality. Clinical obesity however, is the other end of the spectrum. Partners of obese individuals have a responsibility to help address the issue, if for no other reason than the health dangers that obesity causes.
How to help an obese partner
Address the issue
Sit down and discuss the issue together, with each partner talking honestly about what you both want, and how you want to achieve it. Partners should remember to be sensitive but honest, at the same time as reassuring them that they will do everything they can to help, and that they are not alone.
Obesity and sex
In the bedroom, the problem is particularly exaggerated. The fatter a person gets, the less they are interested in sex, and the less sex they get the more their bodies crave satisfaction from food. The physical limitations of excess weight can make sexual activity too strenuous, and the constant feelings of lethargy, caused by obesity, tend to diminish a person's sex drive too.
It is also common for partners of overweight individuals to no longer find them sexually attractive because of weight gain. These emotions are usually denied or suppressed to prevent hurt and upset. In reality however, these emotions are blocking communication, and although difficult to confront, are only exacerbating the problem further.
Eventually Sarah and Jonathon split up and she met someone else. She admits that dating Jonathon was a mistake for both of them. 'We were both vulnerable because of the emotional implications of our weight,' she explains. 'I know he is happier now, and we have both found the support we needed to lose weight from other people.'
Sarah is now much happier with her size, 'I am still large but no longer obese' she says. 'The man I am with now likes me with curves, and finds me sexy, but as an active, bubbly big person, not a lazy overweight sloth.'
Many men find big women attractive and curves and love handles are often considered to be the ultimate in sexuality and sensuality. Clinical obesity however, is the other end of the spectrum. Partners of obese individuals have a responsibility to help address the issue, if for no other reason than the health dangers that obesity causes.
How to help an obese partner
Address the issue
Sit down and discuss the issue together, with each partner talking honestly about what you both want, and how you want to achieve it. Partners should remember to be sensitive but honest, at the same time as reassuring them that they will do everything they can to help, and that they are not alone.
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