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Gone off sex chat with Dr Sarah Brewer
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Where is my sex drive since having a baby?
Q: I have two children, a boy aged three and a girl aged 16 months. Since my last baby was born, I've lost all interest in sex. When my partner comes near me I try to laugh it off or avoid the situation. Also, the last couple of times we've had sex, it's been painful. My partner left me when the baby was four weeks old, then came back when she was about nine months. I'm not sure if it's down to that, but things just don't seem the same. I feel fed up, tearful and tired, and as terrible as this sounds, I can't be bothered with anyone or anything (including the children). I do everything for the children and would never neglect them, but everything feels like a chore and it's getting too much.
claire1471
A: It sounds as if there are lots of complex issues here. Contact Relate www.relate.org.uk on 0845 130 40 10 for individual advice. Check that your low sex drive isn't due to medication (for example, hormonal methods of contraception, drugs to treat high blood pressure or depression). It sounds as if you may be depressed which can in itself cause low libido - often as a first symptom. Do see your doctor for advice - and if he or she suggests anti-depressant medication, make sure you ask for one of the newer ones, which are less likely to further reduce your sex drive.
Dr Sarah Brewer
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Where is my sex drive since having a baby?
Q: I have two children, a boy aged three and a girl aged 16 months. Since my last baby was born, I've lost all interest in sex. When my partner comes near me I try to laugh it off or avoid the situation. Also, the last couple of times we've had sex, it's been painful. My partner left me when the baby was four weeks old, then came back when she was about nine months. I'm not sure if it's down to that, but things just don't seem the same. I feel fed up, tearful and tired, and as terrible as this sounds, I can't be bothered with anyone or anything (including the children). I do everything for the children and would never neglect them, but everything feels like a chore and it's getting too much.
claire1471
A: It sounds as if there are lots of complex issues here. Contact Relate www.relate.org.uk on 0845 130 40 10 for individual advice. Check that your low sex drive isn't due to medication (for example, hormonal methods of contraception, drugs to treat high blood pressure or depression). It sounds as if you may be depressed which can in itself cause low libido - often as a first symptom. Do see your doctor for advice - and if he or she suggests anti-depressant medication, make sure you ask for one of the newer ones, which are less likely to further reduce your sex drive.
Dr Sarah Brewer
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