How to cure dating fatigue

Dating lots of different men is a buzz, but it can become frustrating if you never quite find what you want. Here's how to get your energy back

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Wow, your tenth date in a month - great, eh? Not necessarily.

Trying to find the right man can be a tiring process. Dates aren't much fun when you and the bloke sitting opposite have no chemistry whatsoever, and that's bound to happen if you're dating a lot.

Blind dates in particular are hit-and-miss affairs. It's soul-destroying to endure miss after miss in search of that one heart-melting hit. Any sane soul would rather stay at home every night, watching telly and making sweet music with a tub of ice cream.

So what's a single girl to do? Sack the whole thing off and vow to stay single for life? Absolutely not. What's needed is a new way of looking at your love life. Here are a few tips for putting the fun back into dating.

1. Stop looking

Things don't always go to plan. Sometimes the best way to find the right man is to stop looking.

A break from dating will also allow you to recharge your batteries, and get back into the game later with renewed enthusiasm. So get off the treadmill and enjoy time alone or with your friends.

As you start to enjoy single life, you'll exude more confidence than when you were fixated about finding a mate. And men are suckers for confident, independent women.

2. Escape 'The One' trap

Once you're ready to get back out there, keep some perspective. If you go into each date expecting the night of your life and the man of your dreams, of course you'll be disappointed.

Resolve to keep your first dates short. If the guy you're meeting is offended because you only have time for one drink, then he's too high-maintenance for you anyway.

Never be railroaded into devoting hours of your valuable time to a first date. If you turn up and realise immediately that there's no chemistry, a five-hour evening is a horribly long stretch. Life's too short.