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Why children become runaways

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She also suggests the following:
  • Watch out for signs of emotional stress in your children. This may take many forms - rebellion against authority; truancy from school; hyperactivity; depression; or anxiety. A child under strain might resort to self-harming, stealing or bullying or display compulsive behaviour. Be watchful and get support and information to help your child.

  • Be non-judgemental about your child 'acting out'. A parent should be familiar with signs of alcohol or drug misuse and sexuality issues. Read up on all the leaflets available in your doctor's surgery or local authority offices. Also read teenage magazines and watch teen dramas.

    Culture changes very quickly and activities which were thought of as rare when parents were children, such as body piercing, tattooing, underage binge drinking or using soft drugs such as cannabis, may well be seen as more the norm among your children's peer group. Recognise what a strong influence your children's peers have on them and get to know their friends. Always keep the lines of communication open.

  • Be open to counselling. More children and young people are seeking counselling today. If adults hold outdated attitudes - such as 'counselling is only for other people' - not only are they being unrealistic, but they are also failing to make themselves fully available to their children. Make sure your child knows you approve of counselling and the ways to access this type of support if they want it.

  • Admit when you are wrong. Perhaps the most important tool in preventing your child from running away in times of emotional stress is the ability to say 'I'm sorry' or 'I was wrong'.

    Says Creek: 'If a parent always apologises for any hurt caused to a child, this models respectful and caring boundaries. It tells your child that even as adults we frequently get it wrong - and often have our own problems - but with communication and caring, anything can be resolved.'

    Further advice
    Runaways and Helping Children In A Changing Family are just two of the advice leaflets for parents and carers available from The Children's Society.

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