How to get through your child's teens

Starbright you deserve a star! Thank you for trying to be prepared for the upcoming years. Most parents don't give planning much thought so you've got a headstart. Here are my tips for the upcoming years:

Remember: Teens like to think that they have in-put into decisions. And, on the whole, they should.

So explore with him the day-to-day problems that arise. Even if, at the end of the day, you go with your gut instinct in making a final decision your son will have felt listened to.

I think the person who told you that you 'manage a teenager' probably meant that you show them respect but at the same time remain the ultimate judge of decisions - like a good manager.

Love and affection - growing teenage boys may pull away from motherly cuddles so it's important to show him you love him in other ways. Compliment him when he does something good, enthuse about any achievements, tell him how important he is to you. By creating a loving vibe, he's more likely to feel comfortable turning to you with any problems.

Expectations - if you expect certain good standards of behaviour then you're more likely to get them. For example, when it comes to doing his schoolwork create a routine where school work gets done before going out and seeing mates. If teens know there are rules to live by, they may pull against them from time to time, but they will still respect them.

Parentline Plus 0808 800 2222 are great to chat things over with if any problems arise.

Good luck!