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Children and divorce
Presently the divorce rate is increasing at an astounding rate, and a great many children and adolescents are growing up in a single parent environment
Children need their parents in order for them to develop physically, mentally, and emotionally. If the bond between the parent and the child is broken, negative consequences can result and can be traumatic for a child.
The games that are played between parents after the divorce can be overcome by the parents, but for the children issues like self-esteem and self-identity can be lost. Parents need to be a part of their children's lives. Divorce affects children in their school environment, their peers' environment, and their family structure. The family structure takes on a new definition, differing greatly from the traditional family structure. Many of the divorces are highly emotional and can draw children into conflict. Conflict weighs greatly on how the family functions as a unit. It is also apparent that children feel they are to blame for the separation. Children will go to great extents in order to gain back their normal family lifestyles.
How children react
The sad fact is that when people get divorced the separation between parent and child is inevitable, and how children react to this departure is probably one of the most important facets a parent is faced with. How children react is not seen on a day-to-day basis, it is seen throughout a lifetime. So, it is important for parents to keep close observations on how their children are coping and adjusting to the divorce.
Children will be questioning their feelings and it is the job of the parents to help guide their children through troubling times. Despite the fact that the child is living 'in a single parent family', it is critical that the child is able to talk to both parents openly. Trust is a key ingredient in establishing a healthy and emotionally sound child. This is truly what co-parenting is all about. Despite the fact that the change in the marriage has occurred, the responsibilities of the parent remain the same. The bond between two people as marriage partners has been broken, but the bond between the two as being parents has not been broken. It is still the responsibility of the parents to be parents.
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