Stop problem behaviour before it starts

Be patient
This study helps to prove that parental behaviour has a marked impact on how children behave. Their learning is rapid, so your child will be fully aware that you have something in your bag for him if that is a technique of distraction that you have used before. He will shout and demand sweets and crisps if you have quietened him with those previously. He will run off if he thinks he can get you to chase him and have a game. But if you see shopping as more of a joint activity in which your child participates, rather than sitting quietly while you get on, you will find that he will stay calmer for longer. He will still eventually get bored as he doesn't want to look at the things that you want to look at; but you can buy yourself some time without any whingeing and crying.

This is a strong positive parenting method as it creates a positive relationship between you and your child. You are thinking of your child's needs and interests while also doing what you want to do. He feels involved and enjoys the attention and chat. He learns to observe things in his environment. You can guide his attention, expand his vocabulary and provide learning experiences.

More Toddler Troubles...

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• Positive parenting
• Increasing your child's self-confidence and self-esteem
• How can I be firm without losing my temper?
• Caring for more than one
• Nightmares and night terrors
• My child is a worrier
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Excerpted with permission of the publisher John Wiley & Sons, Ltd. fromToddler Troubles by Jo Douglas. Copyright © 2002 by John Wiley & Sons,Ltd. This book is also available at Wiley Europe, or by calling 44-1243 779-777.