My three-year-old still wants nappies

It sounds as if your son is physically potty trained; he just needs a little help realising it. Sometimes it's difficult for children to give up the safety of their nappies, even when they are no longer comfortable in them (when the nappy is wet or soiled).

Your son needs to be helped into the role of ‘big boy’. Now sounds like the time to throw away the nappies together - make a little ceremony and get him to join in. Next, give him the ‘big boy’ pants. Then you can welcome him into the world of growing up by taking him out for a special treat, such as an outing or a film. This way, he can see that growing up has its advantages.

It's OK if he has ‘accidents’ in the big boy pants at first. This often happens. He just needs the message that he is in pants now and that going back to nappies is not an option. Naturally, the first few days of success should be met with enthusiasm and encouragement on your part. It won't be long until he has settled into his new accomplishment.

Best of luck,

Patti Greenberg Wollman

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