Child safety

Sue: With everything that happens in today's world, I hate my children going anywhere without me. They are ten and seven. I do let them play outside with their friends but I am out every five minutes checking on them. I know this probably sounds fair enough but I feel like I can't relax as I constantly need to know they are safe.

My daughter, who is nearly 11, will be going to High School this year and this will involve going on the school bus. I feel terrified of the thought of letting her go somewhere without me. She is quite sensible and she will be travelling with a friend, but I will worry myself to death.

Some of their friends are allowed to pop over to the shop or go to the park for an hour or so, in a group, but I have never let her do this, I fear it is too dangerous. The trouble is, most of her friends her age don't play with her anymore because she isn't allowed to go where they can and she has to play with friends younger than her. I know I am being very protective but I love them so much, I would hate anything to happen.

Inspector Tim Bonnet: It is a hard job as a parent to go through the gradual process of letting go and giving your child extra freedom.

You sound like you are doing many of the right things. You know your child's friends and they seem fine. You know where she goes and where she is. You now have to steal yourself to trust your daughter to be a little independent.

You must listen to her and try not to let your fear undermine her confidence. If not you will stifle her growth as a person and actually make her more vulnerable. Every child needs to acquire a bit of street wisdom It is not easy for a parent - negotiate with your child, set limits, but don't worry over-much or your daughter will end up doing things behind your back.

Marie: How old should a child be before you agree to let him/her go on a school outing to a museum or the zoo? I'm horrified to see the way very young primary school children are supervised by teachers on tubes. There are often 30 tiny tots managed by just two teachers who faced with a rush of tube travellers have a terrible time keeping their charges in sight. What questions should a parent ask when their child asks permission to go on a school trip?

Inspector Tim Bonnett: Before a school trip is planned the school or group must carry out a risk assessment of the journey and where they are going and ensure there are sufficient staff to manage the trip with the number of children.

Always make sure you have details of the travel arrangements and the purpose of the trip. A good way to achieve peace of mind and help the school is to offer to go along as a helper. You will then get an inside look and help the school at the same time. There is no right age - if the school sees the benefit, trust their judgement as professionals.