Bullying stories

The bullying at work had a more profound effect on me. It was in 1997 and some people in the office were jealous that I had got the job over them. The result was a whispering campaign, changing my work behind my back, making crude references about me in the magazine I worked for, and generally ignoring and undermining me. Once I realised what was going on, it had a terrible effect on me - I was determined to fight my corner, but it meant I had no energy left to cope with the rest of my life. I became withdrawn and couldn't socialise. Although there was a long history of bullying at the magazine, the management dealt with it incredibly badly. What happened still affects me to this day and I would still get distressed at the prospect of meeting my tormentors again. That said, I have rebuilt my confidence and colleagues are astounded to hear what I went through. People at work often think I am scary when they first meet me, but I think this is just a defence mechanism. I probably send off a 'don't mess with me vibe'. While most of those involved have apologised and admitted, I didn't deserve what happened. I now know the true meaning of hatred. The main person involved has a child now and I just hope the little boy never has to face the feelings of helplessness and despair my family and I did at his father's hands.

Useful organisations
Parentline Plus, a national helpline for parents. Tel: 0808 800 2222

Anti-Bullying Campaign, an advice line for parents and children. Tel: 0207 378 1446

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