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10 sex education talking points

It happens to all parents - the day you have to talk about sex with your adolescent. To help get you started, we've identified ten basic points
  1. Admit that sexuality is positive. (Perhaps the hardest thing to admit to a child on the brink of lust and love.) If you cast sex as negative, as in 'Don't do it!' then your child will simply ignore your advice.

  2. Don't give boys short shrift. Broaching sexuality is easier with girls, because you can start with menstruation. With boys, talking about wet dreams and ejaculation is far more disquieting. It's hardly surprising then that surveys show that girls get far more information about their bodies and sexual urges than boys.

  3. Define sexual behaviour as a romantic progression. Explain that sexual attraction begins with a smile and proceeds along a path from kissing to touching and onto intercourse. A step-by-step approach ensures that a child can stop at any time. Make that point.

  4. Girls and boys require different instructions. Take the issue of consent, for example. Girls need to learn to say no firmly, looking a boy straight in the face. Sometimes girls look away or say nothing; this can be misinterpreted by a boy who continues to make sexual advances. Boys need to be warned of the danger of assuming consent. He may be liable for charges of rape or sexual abuse.

  5. Listen carefully to your child's comments. Each generation has different sexual expressions and values. Think back to the 1970s or '80s. Remember your parents' take on sex? Begin to learn today's language and norms. Then you know where to start.
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