For a start, the meaning of 'quality time' is entirely subjective and depends on what both you and your teen enjoy doing. This means that the initial discussion of what you'd like to do together on a day out is as valuable as what you do on the day itself, because it's an opportunity to get talking and find out more about what makes each other tick.

The value of the time you actually spend together lies in effective communication. If you don't develop an understanding of each other's personalities and interests, or are unable to compromise on doing something that you'll both enjoy, then one or both of you lose out. Get this right, however, and you'll begin to see each other in a different light, away from the grind of day-to-day life. You'll share new and unique experiences, enhance feelings of mutual trust and respect, and of course let off steam together. Also, bear in mind that learning to engage in decision-making processes and enjoy free time with family can be extremely beneficial in maturing a teen's own social and relationship skills.

When can I spend quality time with my teen?

Firstly, think about what prevents you from enjoying free time together. This might include the time your teen spends with computer games, the internet, their friends or their studies. Meanwhile, you might often find yourself torn away by work commitments or household duties. The solution is to figure out when you can both reasonably make time for each other. The most obvious times are likely to be evenings, weekends and school holidays, but don't forget to make the most of special occasions such as Christmas and birthdays too. A good tip is not to moan at your teen about the little amount of time you spend together or try to get them to do something they think sounds boring. Otherwise, they'll start to think that making time for you is a chore.

*The 'Fanta' Guide to Teenagers – Surviving the Teenage Years, Topline Report – April 2008

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