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My teen tells lies
have a 14-year-old daughter who has always been well adjusted, happy, bright and intelligent. The past two years have been a total nightmare for us as a family. She has endured a marriage break-up; being taken away from everything she knew - her friends and father; moved house twice; dealt with my being ill and in and out of hospital over a period of time; and her grandmother's death, whom she was very close to.
She's also had problems finding a place at secondary school we couldn't even find her a school to attend initially. Also, her father consistently runs me down and undermines me in front of her.
A year ago, she suffered a major epileptic fit - lasting almost 40 minutes, and had to be resuscitated, which was frightening for all of us.
Just recently, she has started to act strangely, telling nasty and vindictive lies, some about her father - which she has now admitted are lies. She's also lied about slitting her wrists and being pregnant. When I try to talk to her, she just shouts at me (and her language is getting worse!). She refuses to help me in the home, too - but my main priority is the lying.
Attention seeking
I have tried grounding her, not letting her use the PC, everything - but when she gets it into her head that I'm being totally unreasonable, she runs off back to daddy. When she does this, I don't contact her - I always let her make the first move.
She now tells me that she hates her father - but why now? Why not when our marriage broke down? In my mind, this is just an excuse. She milks him for everything she can - he isn't short of a penny or two and I struggle with my cash. I feel that she's attention seeking, but she already has a lot attention at home. I've tried every angle to sort this out and I'm now totally at my wits' end.
Her teachers all say that she's a delightful child, a pleasure to teach, and is working over and above her peers in the majority of subjects.
Can anyone who has experienced this, please help?
bas1966
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