My teen tells lies

Many teens lie for attention, and her confusion and insecurity will probably make it worse. My eldest lied to me about smoking, where she was and so on, and I found it difficult behaviour to punish, but the best way is to either ignore the lie or make her feel foolish for telling it I have found! So if she says she is pregnant, and you know she isn't just say 'oh right, ok', showing her that lying gains no attention.

If things get really bad, it might be worth thinking of counselling for your - daughter, at least then she might stop lying as she knows she is guaranteed attention. Good luck, and well done so far!
i_love_ali

Counselling
I'm not surprised your daughter is doing more than attention seeking. She has been through a lot and probably needs to talk to someone outside of the family circle - perhaps a counselling service. Relate has a counselling service for teenagers with similar problems and this could be worth checking out to see if they offer this service in your area or maybe she might even need to talk to someone in CRUSE about her grandmother's death if she was close to her.
cl-fran21

Be positive
Your poor daughter. She has lost her grandmother, she was ill and you have been very ill (maybe she thought she'd lose you too) and she has a father who is inconsistent and messes with her head with the things he does and says. On top of that she has the normal teenage stuff of periods, peer pressure, school and working out just who she really is.

This girl needs all of your time and attention - as much as you can spare. Ignore all the lies, and spend time out shopping, doing each other's make-up and talking. I often go and lie on my daughter's bed while she is doing stuff and we have a really good natter...I let her tell me silly stories about her friends...whatever.

And even though she may feel too old to have hugs from her mum, give them to her anyway or send her a text/email/leave a note that tells her how much you love her, how clever you think she is and how proud you are of her coping with everything over the last few years.
Inottoni