Seven ways to bond with your baby

3. Get used to 'baby time' and focus on your baby's cues and signals
Babies move on their own rhythm. Everything is new to them. It takes them time to figure things out. Slowing down so that you can be receptive to your baby's cues can help build your unique communication system. Figuring out what your baby wants and needs means that you not only pay close attention to her verbal signals, but her non-verbal ones as well.

4. Observe your baby
As you sit back and watch your baby, you will begin to notice new things about her. Watch how she moves, listen to her sounds, notice how she changes from one day to the next. You will begin to see the world from her perspective, which will help your feelings for her and your understanding of her deepen.

5. Read about babies, talk with other new parents and attend parents' classes
If you are inexperienced with babies, or even if you know a lot about babies, it can be helpful to learn about infant development from books, other parents and teachers. Parenting classes or groups can also offer support, companionship and the company of other parents who are as obsessed with your baby's every move as you are. And when you're feeling fearful, worried or exhausted, other parents' stories will let you know that you are not alone.

6. Take time for yourself
All of the attention, work and focus required to care for a new baby is exhausting. So is recovering from a cesarean. Most new parents lose themselves in their baby. This can be an important part of the attachment process, but you also need time to rejuvenate yourself. It may be hard to leave your baby even for a short period of time, but if you can get just 30 minutes to yourself regularly, you can recharge your batteries so that you can go back and be ready to enjoy your baby.

You might want to take a relaxing bath, write in your diary, organise pictures, read a short story, go on a walk, talk with a friend or get a massage.

7. Enjoy the early days
Babies are new for such a fleeting period of time. Sometimes when new parents are overwhelmed by the intensity of the learning curve with a new baby, they wish their babies were a little more grown up. But if you talk to anyone with older children, they'll tell you how precious and important these early days are.