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Separation anxiety: Normal for a seven month old?
I am a stay at home mother and my seven-month-old daughter is very attached to me. She does not like me to let her grandparents (or anyone else she doesn't see often) hold her. She frantically looks for me and cries until she is handed back to me or her dad. My in-laws say she is spoilt, but I disagree. What do you think?
Eventually, when you feel that she is ready to be introduced to other people, do so. But don’t strain a relationship you are both enjoying to please your in-laws.
Instead, ask your husband to stand by your side and gently, but firmly, address his parents' criticisms. Let them know that you are bringing up your child in a way that works for you. Assure them that they are important people in their granddaughter's life and will certainly play a significant role. Tell them that you expect your daughter will be very interested in her grandparents by the age of two. But at the moment, she is more interested in her parents. Ask them to be patient rather than judgmental.
This is your family and you and your husband are the decision-makers. Consider the advice of others, but do not let it override your own instincts and feelings about how to bring up your child. Develop your child rearing philosophy and be willing, if necessary, to politely express that you have different beliefs. You and her father know your baby better than anyone else. Trust your instincts to guide your judgement, rather than allow others to override it.
It is from your arms that your baby is experiencing the world as delightful and adventurous, rather than frightening. Meeting her need for security now will result in greater independence later, when both of you are ready.
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