The big sleep issue

Dr Ferber recommends a progressive approach to getting your baby to sleep. Of course, it only applies if you know your baby is healthy, well fed and not mushing around in a dirty nappy. Controlled crying is not an appealing prospect, but advocates claim that it works, and quickly.

Step one

Begin with a cosy pre-bedtime routine – try a bath followed by a cuddle and bedtime story or feed.

Step two

Crucially the infant then has to be put in their cot or bed whilst still awake, and then leave the room.

Step three

If your baby cries, wait for a certain amount of time before checking, rather than rushing in immediately. The amount of time you wait is determined by how many days you have been following the programme, how many times you might have already gone in, and what your nerves can take.

Step four

When you go in, soothe your baby by gently talking, but don’t pick her up, rock or feed her. If your baby knows that crying brings them these rewards they will only do it more. Step five

Gradually increase the amount of time in-between checks. According to Ferber, after one week your baby will learn that crying gets nothing more than a quick appearance from you, and isn’t worth the lung power. Sleep clinics

If you are having problems with getting your baby to sleep, your health visitor may be able to refer you to an NHS sleep clinic, which works using the Ferber technique or something similar. These are usually for babies over six months old. For those under three months you have to remember that a night-time feed is still a biological necessity, so expecting a blissful night of uninterrupted slumber is not realistic. If you need some moral support from other mums with newborns try our message board. (link) One of the helpful aspects of attending a sleep clinic is getting support through what is a trying and tiring time. You may meet other parents facing the same problems and realise that you are not alone. Many sleep clinics expect to see results within one week, so that good night’s sleep can very soon be more than just a dream.

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The Contented Little Baby Book by Gina Ford (Vermilion £7.99)
Solve Your Child’s Sleep Problem by Dr Richard Ferber (Dorling Kindersley £7.99)

To find a sleep clinic in your area call:
The Karvol Sleep Management Service on 020 7413 3712.