Coping with the devastating loss of your baby

How are you feeling?

A well-meaning question but...

'At first I said "Fine", as I didn't want to upset anyone. But now I simply say "I'm coping" or a vague "Well, you know, getting there slowly". Then they realise I'm still counting every day since she died.' pokem02

'I couldn't function when Nomie died. I was, and I guess to some degree still am, in shock even 11 weeks down the line. I only wish I could have held him for longer, forever, but I had to let him go.' carolyntracymcallen

'Sometimes I want to scream "How do you think?!" No-one seems to realise I still have a huge, painful hole in my life that only Frankie can fill. Don't say I can have another, I don't want another. Don't say it wasn't meant to be, she fought so hard, don't deny her that. I still cry for her every day.' pokem02

'In the run-up to her funeral, I was like a zombie. People would talk to me but I'd have to ask them to slow down, I couldn't concentrate on what they were saying. If two or more people talked at the same time, I'd cry, I just couldn't take it in. I took a note pad everywhere, even to bed so I could scribble in the dark. I wrote endless lists; lists for the funeral, lists of questions for my GP and the hospital. I've kept them all in Frankie's box.' pokem02