Coping with the devastating loss of your baby

Small comforts

If you have trouble sleeping, try lavender oil in an evening bath to relax, and lemongrass oil in a burner for a soothing aroma.

If you're able, it might help to keep a diary with every detail so you know you won't forget anything in the future. Things will come back to you in days to come and your partner will also remember things that you won't recall, and vice versa.

'A while ago, I mentioned to my husband that I didn't remember her getting cold. He said he did, that I'd said to her "Frankie, you're getting cold" so that's when we dressed her. I'd forgotten that, until he reminded me.' pokem02

'We bought a laminator so we can place poems on his grave without them being ruined by weather.' carolyntracymcallen

'We bought a heart pendant, which I never take off.' pokem02

'This may sound odd but I still feel Hugo move. I wonder if I ever felt him move. Was it just other things inside that I can still feel? But then my emotional mind takes over and I'm certain that, sometimes, he gives me a kick.' kate

'We have all the information from the crematorium about memorials. We know what we want but we deliberately haven't arranged it yet. That would make it all so final. This way, we still have something to do for her.' pokem02