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Dino's fertility story: part one
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The decision
So that's how we came to the decision. I thought about it a lot and my partner and discussed it together. Martin thought it was worth giving it a go. He had far fewer qualms about it than I did. I wonder how he'd have felt if it was donor sperm we were going for. Then again, it was his baby I wanted. I already had two children of my own. He had none. So, though it may not be my genetic baby, it would be his. And I'd be carrying it, helping it grow, feeding it through my bloodstream and of course giving birth to it. I felt it was the nearest I was going to get. It was a compromise, but not a bad compromise. I didn't have time to wait for a natural pregnancy, especially if it wasn't likely to work out anyway.
The decision
So that's how we came to the decision. I thought about it a lot and my partner and discussed it together. Martin thought it was worth giving it a go. He had far fewer qualms about it than I did. I wonder how he'd have felt if it was donor sperm we were going for. Then again, it was his baby I wanted. I already had two children of my own. He had none. So, though it may not be my genetic baby, it would be his. And I'd be carrying it, helping it grow, feeding it through my bloodstream and of course giving birth to it. I felt it was the nearest I was going to get. It was a compromise, but not a bad compromise. I didn't have time to wait for a natural pregnancy, especially if it wasn't likely to work out anyway.
We had the money. Martin's mother had died the previous year and he inherited a fair amount. We couldn't think of a better legacy. She would have been so happy to see her grandchild.
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