Amelia and Fraser's pregnancy diary

Amelia
As soon as we got home, I made an appointment to see my doctor, which turned out to be nothing like I had expected. Firstly he told me off for seeing him and not the nurse, and then said that he assumed I wanted to keep it and that I'd hear from the midwife in about two weeks if they hadn't lost my referral! I came out of the doctors feeling as if I was about to start crying, he hadn't given me any advice at all and seemed less than interested, like I was wasting his time. But I made an appointment with the nurse for the next day. She was lovely and seemed to be more excited than me that I was pregnant.

Fraser
We really wanted to tell people but it was still early days, but we decided to tell our parents. We were too excited not to tell anyone.

Amelia's mum had been dropping baby hints longer than Amelia so we knew she'd be excited at the prospect of her first grandchild and she was; she started knitting almost straight away. Her dad was over the moon too and had a little cry over the phone, as did my mum when we called her.

Amelia
Fras took it upon himself to be my personal health advisor and we bought lots of books on pregnancy and diet and he swotted up and read me bits about what I should and shouldn't be eating. We generally eat pretty well, so I didn't need a major diet change.

I was really looking forward to starting to feel and look pregnant, as apart from sore breasts and needing to pee more often, I didn't have any symptoms. I was even looking forward to morning sickness! However, for about three or four days I felt pretty queasy for a couple hours but was never sick and that was it! Reading message boards with other ladies writing about having morning sickness I now feel really lucky.

Fraser
We're struggling to keep it a secret - people are asking why Amelia isn't drinking (everyone knows her too well) and excuses of antibiotics or headaches will only work once or twice. We have some nights out ahead, also a visit from my family, a visit to my sister and on top of this a wedding to go to with all Amelia's university friends. Our lies will need to be believable.

One downfall was visiting my sister. She and Amelia usually enjoy a few glasses of wine when they get together, but this time we had our excuse prepared. We would say that Amelia wasn't drinking because we were getting up very early the next morning to drive to Scotland and Amelia was doing the first stint. We weren't prepared for dinner however: my sister announced how she and her kids had made this 'special' chocolate mousse for Auntie Amelia and started listing the ingredients, one of which was raw egg. What could we do now? Amelia would never normally turn her nose up at chocolate mousse and with the fuss being made by the kids about how much they had done to make it, it would be harder to refuse. After one rapid, whispered conversation later we decided we ought to come clean and break the news. I'm so glad that we did as she immediately burst into tears and gave us both massive hugs, saying that her wee brother was going to be a daddy.

Amelia
We were determined not to let on to my university friends as we didn't want to announce our news at the wedding, and steal their thunder. We'd decided to say I had an impacted wisdom tooth and was on antibiotics so couldn't drink. Nobody believed us. My friends kept asking if I was pregnant and I kept saying I wasn't. I'm sure hormones had something to do with it but I started crying at the wedding as my friend looked so happy and it was such a lovely day.

As it is our first pregnancy, we decided to have a Viability Scan privately, to check all was going well. The doctor was lovely and seemed really excited that we were pregnant, which was really nice and unexpected. I thought he'd have already done 20 or so scans that day would be fed up but not at all. It was absolutely amazing, we could see this little peanut-shaped thing, which was 15mm from head to bum and had a tiny heatbeat going strong.

Fraser
Nothing had prepared me for how I would feel when I saw our child on the screen for the first time. The doctor rigged everything up, switched on the screen and there it was, the same shape as in all the books we'd read. My hand shot out and grabbed Amelia's foot (the part of her body nearest to me) and squeezed. I was smitten. There were limb buds, a tiny head and a tiny heart, flickering away. It was such an amazing feeling, only bettered when the doctor switched on the volume and we could hear this tiny heartbeat. It was truly awesome. The doctor printed out some fantastic images for us and then we were off, smiling broadly.

From the measurements and the information we gave him our due date was estimated as 9th January. This meant that the conception was just after mid-April, practically immediately after we started trying! I was quite pleased with myself.