Doulas and dads

Phone several doulas with a list of questions to help you decide if they are right for you. Then meet one or two and interview them, raising these points:

• What training have you had?
• What is your philosophy about childbirth and about supporting women and their partners through labour?
• How many births have you attended in hospital/at home?
• Tell me (us) about your experiences with birth, personally and as a doula.
• May we call you with questions or concerns before and after the birth?
• When do you join me in labour?
• Do you work with one or more backup doulas (for times when you are not available)?
• May we meet them?
• What is your fee?

• Is she kind, warm, and enthusiastic?
• Does she communicate well?
• Is she a good listener?
• Is she comfortable with your choices?
• Do you feel comfortable with her?

The British Doula Association (helpline 020 7565 2640, Mon-Fri 9.00-5.00) can provide a list of trained doulas in your area and advise you about standards, practice and training.