I hate my baby before it's even born

It honestly doesn't matter to your baby if you don't like him immediately after giving birth - he really won't know! And I bet you wouldn't say that you hated the sight of your two children now.

But post-natal depression is a different matter - it can be very frightening and I don't blame you for being scared that it will happen again.

Talk things through with your partner - it sounds as though you need his support at the moment. It might also be helpful to have a chat with your GP who will be able to keep an eye on you with regard to the possibility of post-natal depression and, if necessary, ensure that you get early treatment.

There is, of course, a chance that this time round things won't be as bad as you fear. From my experience, women who are really not looking forward to having their baby (and feeling like this is not that unusual) often find that when the baby actually arrives, their previous misgivings disappear.