How is confidence - real confidence - demonstrated? Here's the iVillage 10-point checklist to keep you on track:

1. People who believe in themselves take charge of their actions



2. They act assertively, speak calmly and listen properly



3. They're flexible towards people, circumstances and all things new



4. They're able to give genuine praise and to accept constructive criticism



5. They evaluate themselves realistically



6. They appreciate their achievements



7. They learn from their mistakes



8. They aren't run by 'shoulds', 'musts' and 'ought tos'



9. When an opportunity comes up they say 'Why not?' rather than 'Why?'



10. They feel they can influence situations and outcomes