Ten women from the My Affair message board reveal how mobile phones played a part in their secret liaisons

'Mobile phones are the source of all evil! Two-and-a-half years ago I had to call my OM (Other Man) on business. I didn't really know him then. About six months later I had to call him again and realised by the way he answered that he had saved my number (we had met and chatted in the interim). Six months later he started to text me and then we were having an affair. It would never have happened without a mobile. We communicate by that all the time.'
S

'I am on a contract but you can phone your network provider and ask to have itemised billing removed. It still shows the number of texts you have sent (hundreds) but not to which number. My mobile is always on my person... I would need therapy if I lost it! Though I did nearly need therapy when I accidentally dropped it in the bath whilst texting my OM... Frazzled it completely... One of the downsides of texting secretly... I tell you I had a new mobile faster than you can imagine, now I don't text in bath.'
S

'Mobiles play a big part in my affair, we're texting each other all the time. I'm on PAYG (Pay As You Go) so it's not a problem for me. I just have to remember to keep my phone on vibrate only when my H (Husband) is around! Also emails are important. I have an email account my H knows nothing about, so we can chat easily.'
M

'My EMA (Extra Marital Affair) is over now but texts were our only way of communicating outside working hours. I had a contract phone but the contract expired the week before I started seeing my MM (Married Man) - fate or what!! - and I just kept it as a PAYG so I didn't get a bill.

MM had a contract phone but his relationship with his DW (Darling Wife) was fairly new (less than a year) and he kept all his personal documents private. He's a very private person so this probably didn't seem that odd to her. He showed me one bill that was pages long. He'd sent something like 600 texts that month, all but a few to me!'
J

'Mobiles are important when you have a DH (Darling Husband) and are not where you should be! No local code to give it away when you call home, you can be in one place and claim to be elsewhere! Texts are also important, although it's difficult to erase some of them even though you know you should.'
M

'If we didn't have mobile phones we wouldn't have an EMA! That is the ONLY way we contact each other.
D

'Certainly if I never had a mobile I would not be in this situation! My MM gets his mobile paid for by his company and I often wondered if any of the accounts girls raise their eyebrows at texts sent at stupid times of the day or night, and surely my number must raise an eyebrow or two as it would appear on his statement as being called two - three times a day! But as it's his own firm, he obviously doesn't give a hoot!
N

'I don't know where I'd be without my mobile. We used to flirt when we were together and by text before the relationship began. But it was actually a particular text that made me realise that he was serious. It took me a day to answer it.
T

If he wanted me to call, he would ring once and then hang up, and that would be the signal for me to phone him back. This way, he never had calls to me on his bill. He also took his SIM card out every night before going home, so that it deleted the 'received calls' list from the phone, as sometimes she would check his phone. Boy, am I glad all that is now over!'
D

'I text my MM a lot. My bill is itemised but my DH wouldn't open my post, and I always destroy the bill after I've read it as I also receive online billing, which I can use privately to check any queries etc. Most companies offer this service now, and you can ask them not to bother sending you a postal bill.
J

My MM uses his company phone, and we have been caught out once before, when he was on business abroad and he phoned me for almost an hour at 11pm!!! Now we are more careful, and if it is weird times of the night he will ususally text me and I will call him back from my phone, so that it doesn't appear on his work bill. My bills are quite high as a result.'
T

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