Member solutions: should I tell his wife?

Be fair, says zoebh
This guy was there for you when you needed him. He gave you the emotional support that you needed at the time. Try to imagine where you'd be now if you'd never met him. You have had two years of a great relationship that has now ended. You probably feel like there is a massive empty hole in your life just now, but it will heal over and you will find that you are fine without him. I am prepared to believe that he meant every loving word he said to you, when he said it. On saying that, whatever he said about his wife was probably fairly exaggerated.

I suspect his wife has gone through this whole rigmarole before. A lot of wives seem to know when they have a serial-cheating husband, but choose to ignore it. Why upset her more than she already is?

You are suffering from the fresh, raw wounds of rejection, so don't act hastily. I know it's hard to believe, but in a couple of years this man will just be a fond memory and the pain will have gone.

Give yourself time to mourn your loss, then go out and paint the town red!

Believe in karma, says heartlesswench
Karma - what you put out will come back to you three fold. So forget the revenge and move on gracefully.

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