Member solutions: should I tell his wife?

I sort of understand, although I am devastated, feel stupid, foolish and used. I know I have to move on and forget this man because he is not worth it and I deserve better.

But now I have a dilemma. Should I let his wife know exactly what has been going on between her husband and I for the last two years? Why on earth should he get away with promising me everything, live a double life and just go back to his marriage as if I never existed? Does she have the right to know what a lying, cheating, sneaky and deceitful man her husband is?

What is your true motive in telling her? asks denjim50s
Do you harbour the fantasy that if she knows all about your relationship she will throw him out and he'll come running back to you? You don't really know what he has been telling her, or even just what she does or doesn't know about his infidelity. You don't even know whether you're the first or only other woman. His wife may have been putting up with his cheating behaviour for years.

The only thing you know is that he's told you one thing but done another. He manipulates the women in his life, he's good at it and would probably be able to talk his way out of any trouble you might stir up with the wife.

You got sucked into the age-old situation of being the mistress of a married man. You believed his lies. Move on. There is nothing for you with this jerk.

You have been seduced by his words, says cl-makaeble
You wanted to believe his promises. You told yourself that it was the truth because it felt better that way. I am willing to bet, in your heart of hearts, you knew it was a sham.

I don't think you should consider revenge as it always has a habit of bouncing back. I would retire gracefully and try to rebuild your life without him. Bitterness and revenge have a way of really messing up your life, far better to know that you are the one who behaved responsibly and truthfully, and leave it at that.