Advertisement
Topics
Splitting Up
Communication & arguing
Gay & lesbian
Infidelity
Intimacy & commitment
Living Together
Relationship Problems
Communication & arguing
Gay & lesbian
Infidelity
Intimacy & commitment
Living Together
Relationship Problems
Hot stuff
Newsletters
Promotions
Dating dilemmas
Find a new man with the help of DatingDirect.com
Find a new man with the help of DatingDirect.com
From flirting to infidelity: how to resist temptation
How much fun is too much? We all love a bit of attention, but there's a fine line between a bit of harmless flirting and disloyalty to your partner.
So how can you tell when things are getting dangerous? And how can you put a stop to a flirtation that's heading inexorably towards the illicit?
First of all you need to be honest with yourself and learn to recognise when you're feeling seriously tempted by another man.
Five signs to watch for
1. You're over emotional
A warm smile may leave you feeling happy, but it shouldn't leave you walking on air for weeks. A couple of days gap before a guy returns your email may leave you irritated, but it shouldn't leave you pacing the floor and chain-smoking until two in the morning.
If what you're doing is fun, enjoyable but not emotionally charged, then you're probably safe. If it leaves you on a total high or low for days, you're in trouble. Your feelings are a clear indication of when something is important to you; if they are on full alert about an other guy, then he's important - probably too important.
2. You're breaking your own agreements
Every partnership has its own spoken and unspoken rules - and they vary enormously. Some couples would regard a flirty text as grounds for divorce; others stay cool even when their partner spends a weekend away with a friend of the opposite gender.
The point here is that the line between safe and dangerous will vary according to the agreements you and your partner have. If you've agreed that it isn't on to do something, then don't do it - but if you've discussed it and are both happy about it, go ahead and enjoy yourself.
So how can you tell when things are getting dangerous? And how can you put a stop to a flirtation that's heading inexorably towards the illicit?
First of all you need to be honest with yourself and learn to recognise when you're feeling seriously tempted by another man.
Five signs to watch for
1. You're over emotional
A warm smile may leave you feeling happy, but it shouldn't leave you walking on air for weeks. A couple of days gap before a guy returns your email may leave you irritated, but it shouldn't leave you pacing the floor and chain-smoking until two in the morning.
If what you're doing is fun, enjoyable but not emotionally charged, then you're probably safe. If it leaves you on a total high or low for days, you're in trouble. Your feelings are a clear indication of when something is important to you; if they are on full alert about an other guy, then he's important - probably too important.
2. You're breaking your own agreements
Every partnership has its own spoken and unspoken rules - and they vary enormously. Some couples would regard a flirty text as grounds for divorce; others stay cool even when their partner spends a weekend away with a friend of the opposite gender.
The point here is that the line between safe and dangerous will vary according to the agreements you and your partner have. If you've agreed that it isn't on to do something, then don't do it - but if you've discussed it and are both happy about it, go ahead and enjoy yourself.
1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | next
printer friendly
send to a friend
RATE IT
Delicious
Digg
reddit
Facebook
StumbleUpon
iVillage Features
Message Boards
Pregnancy & Baby |
Parenting |
Health |
Diet & Fitness |
Beauty & Fashion|
Relationships |
Home & Garden |
Food & Drink |
Work & Career |
Entertainment
Horoscopes| Message Boards | Quizzes | Newsletters | Join
Horoscopes| Message Boards | Quizzes | Newsletters | Join
© iVillage Limited 2000-2008. All rights reserved. | © iVillage inc. 1995-2008. All rights reserved.
iVillage Ltd is a UK company registered in England & Wales (3837269) at 80-110 New Oxford Street, London WC1 1HB
iVillage Ltd is a UK company registered in England & Wales (3837269) at 80-110 New Oxford Street, London WC1 1HB