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From flirting to infidelity: how to resist temptation
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3. You're covering your tracks
You keep your mobile to hand day and night just in case your boyfriend answers it or tries to read your texts. You click off your e-mail account when he enters the room. And you mysteriously find yourself 'editing' your description of what happened in the wine bar last night after work.
If you are hiding what's happening from your partner, it's because you know he (or she) wouldn't approve. And whether or not he has any reason to disapprove, this means you've crossed a line. You are now doing something that would hurt your partner if he knew about it.
4. If you wouldn't like the tables turned
Stop for a moment. Imagine that your partner was doing what you are doing. How would you feel?
If your honest answer is that you'd be perfectly relaxed and confident in their loyalty, then you're probably still ok. But if you'd be really unhappy about their behaviour, then you know that what you're doing is potentially hurtful.
5. If you just can't stop
Even if none of the above criteria line up, even if everyone's happy about what's happening, if you can't imagine calling a halt to what you're doing, then you're in serious trouble. Because however harmless it all seems, if you can't stop sending those texts, those emails, or that banter, then you're addicted. And if you're addicted, then the next step could be risking all for the sake of that flirting.
3. You're covering your tracks
You keep your mobile to hand day and night just in case your boyfriend answers it or tries to read your texts. You click off your e-mail account when he enters the room. And you mysteriously find yourself 'editing' your description of what happened in the wine bar last night after work.
If you are hiding what's happening from your partner, it's because you know he (or she) wouldn't approve. And whether or not he has any reason to disapprove, this means you've crossed a line. You are now doing something that would hurt your partner if he knew about it.
4. If you wouldn't like the tables turned
Stop for a moment. Imagine that your partner was doing what you are doing. How would you feel?
If your honest answer is that you'd be perfectly relaxed and confident in their loyalty, then you're probably still ok. But if you'd be really unhappy about their behaviour, then you know that what you're doing is potentially hurtful.
5. If you just can't stop
Even if none of the above criteria line up, even if everyone's happy about what's happening, if you can't imagine calling a halt to what you're doing, then you're in serious trouble. Because however harmless it all seems, if you can't stop sending those texts, those emails, or that banter, then you're addicted. And if you're addicted, then the next step could be risking all for the sake of that flirting.
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