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From flirting to infidelity: how to resist temptation
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4. Revamp your relationship
Almost always, vulnerability to temptation is linked to what's happening at home. So you need to take a long hard look at your central relationship and ask yourself why you ever came close to betraying it.
What did you get from the flirting that you weren't getting from your partner - admiration, giggles, passion, support? What was happening with your partner that never happened with your 'temptation opportunity' - disagreements, rows, disappointments, infidelity?
Ask what needs to change in your relationship - then start talking, negotiating, and doing all you can to improve things. In other words, revamp your relationship to make it temptation proof.
5. Consider the possibility...
Just sometimes, temptation's a sign not that you're rocking the boat, but that the shipwreck has already happened. What you're doing is not simply flirting, but actively moving on from your partner - you just haven't realised that fact.
So consider the possibility. Almost certainly, you'll realise that you are still in love with your partner, and you'll recommit to him. Great.
But just possibly, you'll become aware that this is the end of the road. If so, face that. It's much kinder to all concerned to split up with one partner before giving in to temptation with another!
4. Revamp your relationship
Almost always, vulnerability to temptation is linked to what's happening at home. So you need to take a long hard look at your central relationship and ask yourself why you ever came close to betraying it.
What did you get from the flirting that you weren't getting from your partner - admiration, giggles, passion, support? What was happening with your partner that never happened with your 'temptation opportunity' - disagreements, rows, disappointments, infidelity?
Ask what needs to change in your relationship - then start talking, negotiating, and doing all you can to improve things. In other words, revamp your relationship to make it temptation proof.
5. Consider the possibility...
Just sometimes, temptation's a sign not that you're rocking the boat, but that the shipwreck has already happened. What you're doing is not simply flirting, but actively moving on from your partner - you just haven't realised that fact.
So consider the possibility. Almost certainly, you'll realise that you are still in love with your partner, and you'll recommit to him. Great.
But just possibly, you'll become aware that this is the end of the road. If so, face that. It's much kinder to all concerned to split up with one partner before giving in to temptation with another!
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