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Cheat alert

Dear Suspicious
While I don’t know what your husband is doing to make you suspicious, it’s clear you’re uncomfortable with what’s going on. Maybe you’ve picked up signals that your husband has already cheated. Or perhaps your feminine intuition tells you that he’s restless even if he hasn’t yet strayed. At least you’re not in denial and you’re willing to face the possibility that he may be having an affair and to deal with the situation, whatever it is.

Usually someone senses infidelity before becoming consciously aware of it. There are almost always signs - I call them black flags - that indicate there’s something wrong. These are the typical symptoms of cheating:

1. Your partner’s sexual behaviour changes: He doesn’t want sex as often; he wants it more often; or he introduces new sexual techniques.

2. Your partner’s emotional pattern changes: He starts getting angry with you for no good reason; he becomes distant and sometimes doesn’t listen to you; or he suddenly becomes incredibly sweet and ingratiating.

3. Your partner’s physical habits change: He starts working out regularly at the gym; he spends much more time taking care of his body; or he goes on a healthy, or not so healthy, food binge.

4. Your partner’s lifestyle changes: He begins to have regular unexplained absences from home; he routinely works late at the office, when he has rarely done this before; or he frequently leaves the house on the pretext of ‘doing something for work or with a friend’.

A sexually, emotionally, or physically absent partner is likely to be getting fulfilment somewhere else.

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