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Does he deserve a second chance?

by Sally Ann Lasson

question
I found out recently that the love of my life has been sleeping with his ex-wife. It was when we first got together, three and a half years ago. I'm devastated because I really thought he was my soul mate and yet he let me down. When it all came out in the open he felt that he was betraying her not me. What do I do? Is he worth another chance and how can he prove he really loves me?
Mary

answer
Up until what point was your lover sleeping with his ex-wife? If it was all those years ago, then he does deserve another chance. I know it's all very distasteful, but there is frequently an upsetting overlap in these situations. It's often best not to enquire, and your partner was an idiot to tell you. Everything else he has told you about his feelings at the time make perfect sense. He was naturally confused because he was already married to a woman who thought he was her soul mate when he met you.

Make it up with him. I can't tell you what he must do to prove himself. What do you want? If he's the love of your life, you could always marry him. That would draw a line under the past.
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