Relationship ruts

Learn to let go
Some relationships just can't be eased out of their rut. Quite simply, you have to walk away - no matter how hard it may seem at the time.

If the following are true of a relationship in your life then you may want to think seriously about breaking off contact:

• The other person consistently lies to you .
  
• The relationship is violent or abusive.
  
• You feel that you're compromising what you believe in by being in this relationship.
  
• You are unhappy more than you are happy.
  

For extra support if you want to break off a personal relationship, contact Relate on 01788 573241.

A final tip. With any relationship that you feel is in a rut - whether it's with a family, friend, partner or colleague - dedicate at least three hours to that person once a month. Go for lunch, dinner, a fun outing or a walk. Focus completely on each other, listen to each other and just blank the outside world. I promise - this will restore your relationship. You'll move out of that rut.

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