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Seven days of loving

Make Valentine’s Day the explosive climax to a week of good old-fashioned lovin’

Valentine’s Day – it’s the one day in the year dedicated to celebrating love and romance. But why just one day? Why not make your celebration last all week? Our seven-day Valentine’s plan will help you to concentrate on a different aspect of your relationship each day, build your commitment, troubleshoot any problems and bring your loving to a wonderful Valentine’s crescendo. So start now.

Day One: make that commitment
All good loving is underpinned by commitment. The security of knowing there’s love and loyalty between you allows you both to relax, be yourselves and grow.

So start your Valentine celebration in the best possible way by making a statement of your love for each other.

If you’re thinking, ‘What sort of statement?’ then choose one that works for you and reflects where you are in your relationship. You may want to simply say, ‘I love you’. You may want to write each other a letter declaring your feelings. If you’re married you could reread your vows together, quietly and with pauses for thought after each vow. Whatever you decide to do, make this a real affirmation of your love.

Day Two: start talking
I always say that there are three main secrets to a good relationship: communication, communication and communication.

At the start of any relationship you want to know everything about each other. But as time passes, this sort of deep level information exchange fades away. With the hectic pace of life, couples find they just never talk properly.

So take time today to communicate. Turn off the television and talk through what you think and feel about some of these things:

• The best day we ever spent together.
  
• The three things I love about you most.
  
• My fears about life without you.
  
• Something I want to thank you for.
  
• How you’ve changed my life.
  

For extra help on learning to talk to each other, try reading Why Men Don’t Listen and Women Can’t Read Maps, by Barbara and Allan Pease, (Pease International, £10.99).

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