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Is work wrecking your love life?

by Fiona Gibson
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When I met the man I eventually married, I’d just landed a new job with an off-the-scale workload and 19 staff to manage. Compared to this, my previous job had been a 9–5 teabreak. Yet my partner and I managed to see each other five nights a week; rather than complaining that we never saw each other, he was more likely to answer the door, find me standing there and say, ‘Oh! You again.’ I wouldn’t have dreamed of sloping off to the wine bar with its miserable dishes of salted snacks in favour of seeing the person I cared about most.

A friend realised her relationship was hitting the skids when she found herself ‘making diary notes, reminding me that I should see my boyfriend at least twice a week.’ She observes, ‘If you’re committed to someone you make sure you spend time together. You put that person before work. You might work occasional overtime but not every weekend. No wonder my boyfriend started seeing someone else.’

Work schedules are the modern way to end an affair: kinder than ‘I went off him’, more sympathy-inducing than, ‘I don’t want to settle down.’ And if you find yourself single for longer than you intended, there’s always that sleek, shiny desk to cuddle up to.

  • Do you let work interfere with your relationships? Have you used the office as an excuse? Talk about it on the message boards


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