The great escape

Don't just make time to be together when you're away. Get into the habit of spending regular time together, whether it's ten minutes each day or an evening every week. Talk to each other - even if there doesn't seem to be much to chat about. People change over time, often in subtle ways, and the partner you originally got together with will have changed in his or her thoughts, feelings and attitudes since you met.

Put positive energy into resolving common conflicts, otherwise resentment can build up over the months and it can become impossible to clear, even with the best holiday in the world. So if you do have differing opinions, work them out. If you find yourselves rowing, regard that as a real danger sign.

Don't save affection and good sex for holidays. Keep cuddling, keep making love, experiment and try new things on a regular basis. You may not feel as passionate after a heavy week of nine-to-five as you do under the Mediterranean sun - but if the passion ebbs completely, take action.

Finally, if things aren't going well, don't hold back from ringing your local branch of Relate (www.relate.org.uk). Find the number in the phone book, or ring 01788 573241.

Resources
• Stop Arguing, Start Talking by Susan Quilliam (Vermilion, £6.99).
• Why Men Don't Listen and Women Can't Read Maps by Barbara and Allan Pease (Pease International, £10.99).