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The ten worst habits of the (almost) perfect couple
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Being a slob
Your partner has a personal hygiene problem. Showers have become optional, tooth-brushing gets left until the morning and pants outlast their smell-by date.
Why? This is usually because the slob doesn't realise that personal hygiene is important. It can also signify that your partner is so angry that he actively wants to drive you away.
How's it a problem long-term? Lack of personal hygiene can seriously damage your sex life!
How to fix it? Simple and unthreatening hints work best: 'I'd feel much more aroused if you'd clean your teeth...' If that doesn't work, try to discover the cause of his anger.
Public put-downs
You may be all sweetness and light in private - but put you in front of friends and the knives come out.
Why? If there's a lot of unspoken anger between you, you may not risk having a row in private in case you lose control. Doing it in public puts a brake on things.
How's it a problem long-term? Public put-downs don't just humiliate you in front of your friends. They may stop you resolving the issues, because what needs to be said doesn't get said.
How to fix it? Have a serious 'where are we at' conversation to find out what's really going on.
As with any of the problems mentioned here, if you feel that the issues are too huge to discuss together, see a counsellor. Counselling can create a level playing field for you and your partner - and provide a referee! Log on to Relate
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Being a slob
Your partner has a personal hygiene problem. Showers have become optional, tooth-brushing gets left until the morning and pants outlast their smell-by date.
Why? This is usually because the slob doesn't realise that personal hygiene is important. It can also signify that your partner is so angry that he actively wants to drive you away.
How's it a problem long-term? Lack of personal hygiene can seriously damage your sex life!
How to fix it? Simple and unthreatening hints work best: 'I'd feel much more aroused if you'd clean your teeth...' If that doesn't work, try to discover the cause of his anger.
Public put-downs
You may be all sweetness and light in private - but put you in front of friends and the knives come out.
Why? If there's a lot of unspoken anger between you, you may not risk having a row in private in case you lose control. Doing it in public puts a brake on things.
How's it a problem long-term? Public put-downs don't just humiliate you in front of your friends. They may stop you resolving the issues, because what needs to be said doesn't get said.
How to fix it? Have a serious 'where are we at' conversation to find out what's really going on.
As with any of the problems mentioned here, if you feel that the issues are too huge to discuss together, see a counsellor. Counselling can create a level playing field for you and your partner - and provide a referee! Log on to Relate
Are you strugging with a relationship problem? Get advice from other iVillagers.
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