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Post-Christmas relationship repair
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You got on each other's nerves
As the days went by, you found yourself getting more and more irritated with him. By New Year you were ready to snap. Unless you suspect that your irritation is masking disillusionment with your relationship, these feelings are likely to be down to being cooped up together for too long over the Christmas period. When you get back into your normal routine, you'll find that things naturally improve. But it's worth making a sincere apology for feeling irritated. If you apologise, your partner probably will too. Next year, keep your sanity by allowing yourself some time apart over the Christmas period. Spend some time with friends, with family, or best of all alone. Go for a walk, go shopping, or curl up on the sofa with a book.
You did all the work
You threw yourself wholeheartedly into making this Christmas happen - and your partner didn't pull his weight at all and accused you of nagging him. Often, one partner, usually the woman, is more enthusiastic about Christmas than the other. This can leave their partner feeling left out. They lose any motivation to help as they feel all the work has already been done with out them and that their contribution is unnecessary.
Once Christmas is over, treat yourself to a good night out to celebrate the New Year, your relationship and all the hard work you put into Christmas.
Next year, as Christmas approaches, draw up a list of what needs to be done and have a family conference to allocate jobs. On no account, no matter how tempted you are, must you do anyone else's job for them. Even if some of the tasks don't get done and you feel everything is turning into a disaster, relax, it might be a blessing - one disorganised Christmas may be it all it takes for your partner to realise just how much work is actually involved.
You got on each other's nerves
As the days went by, you found yourself getting more and more irritated with him. By New Year you were ready to snap. Unless you suspect that your irritation is masking disillusionment with your relationship, these feelings are likely to be down to being cooped up together for too long over the Christmas period. When you get back into your normal routine, you'll find that things naturally improve. But it's worth making a sincere apology for feeling irritated. If you apologise, your partner probably will too. Next year, keep your sanity by allowing yourself some time apart over the Christmas period. Spend some time with friends, with family, or best of all alone. Go for a walk, go shopping, or curl up on the sofa with a book.
You did all the work
You threw yourself wholeheartedly into making this Christmas happen - and your partner didn't pull his weight at all and accused you of nagging him. Often, one partner, usually the woman, is more enthusiastic about Christmas than the other. This can leave their partner feeling left out. They lose any motivation to help as they feel all the work has already been done with out them and that their contribution is unnecessary.
Once Christmas is over, treat yourself to a good night out to celebrate the New Year, your relationship and all the hard work you put into Christmas.
Next year, as Christmas approaches, draw up a list of what needs to be done and have a family conference to allocate jobs. On no account, no matter how tempted you are, must you do anyone else's job for them. Even if some of the tasks don't get done and you feel everything is turning into a disaster, relax, it might be a blessing - one disorganised Christmas may be it all it takes for your partner to realise just how much work is actually involved.
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