Flirts on your turf

Because that's what's so infuriating about these predatory women. They weave a web of intrigue that is by definition against you, and the one person who ought to be on your team - your boyfriend - is acting dumb. He is now in cahoots with the Flirt On Your Turf. And you are, effectively,the outsider.

Flirts On Your Turf have other techniques which they employ behind your back. They send your boyfriend emails, ostensibly work related, and then suggest that they meet up for a drink to discuss 'the project'. If your boyfriend has children from a previous relationship, they might try and get at him that way. They might suggest a glamorous day out for his kids and if she has her own children, they have another whole level of bonding not open to you. Using children in this way is, of course, despicable, but your boyfriend will tell you that you're just being mean if you point it out to him. Why? (a) Because the Flirt On Your Turf has established her maternal credentials. (b)Because any implicit criticism about how he looks after his kids will make him defensive. And (c) because he has been relieved of the burden of thinking of something to do with them.

The party scenario I described at the beginning happened to my friend Elizabeth recently. By the end of the evening, a bit the worse for drink,she ended up in the back of a minicab at 2am trying to discuss what had happened with her boyfriend. He said she was imagining things. He said thatthe woman in question was a longstanding friend of his. She said that that was odd, because they'd been going out for a year and she'd never even heard of this woman before. The argument dragged on for days and Elizabeth sounded like a drone - exactly the result a Flirt On Your Turf is after.Why would you boyfriend want to be with draggy, moany you when he could bewith vivacious breast woman?

Now we have located the flirt's common tactics we can get to the bottom of this issue in part two. Read on?