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In a mess with sexy ex
Dear Sally Ann
My lovely boyfriend of six months has asked me to marry him. However, I’m still in love with my ex and I sleep with him from time to time. If my boyfriend knew about this he would be heartbroken, but I just can’t keep my hands off my sexy ex – I have known him for 7 years, and I have no interest in sex with my current boyfriend, though I get on better with him. I am too scared to ask my ex for a relationship, in case he turns me down. What should I do?
Liz
If your current boyfriend weren’t so besotted with you, I’d say carry on as you are. But as you are in the process of trashing another person’s life, something will have to be done. It’s only a shame that science isn’t advanced enough to splice these two boyfriend’s together, because then you’d have what you want.
Which I suppose means that one of them, at least, has to go. Your boyfriend must be put out of his misery. That doesn’t mean telling him the whole truth, but you can’t let him labour on under the misconception that you have serious intentions towards him. The ex sounds like he’s doing to you what you are doing to your current – looking for some ego stroking. You don’t say what’s happened over the past 7 years, but if you are still too scared to talk to him about having a serious relationship, it must be because you think he’d say no.
Still, in matters of the heart, it’s better to stick to the one you’re in love with. Let the nice guy down lightly and see if you can get anywhere with the ex. That way, you put some honesty back into your life and an innocent bystander isn’t punished for a mess not of his own making.
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